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- The unbloggable situation is still going strong. There's still no resolution or no timeline for a resolution. At this point, I'm mostly numb. There's still a lot of anger and fear (mostly of the unknown), but I've pushed those feelings away so that I can get through the days without being completely on edge. I have no idea what's going to happen and if I spend too much time thinking about it, I'll panic - there are so many aspects of my life that may be negatively affected (depending on the outcome of the situation) and the thought of potentially having to make major changes is overwhelming.
- I've met with the therapist twice. I wouldn't say anything good has come out of it, but we haven't done much yet - mostly just the standard get-to-know-you stuff. I'm meeting with her again on Friday and we're supposed to talk about an action plan (whatever that means in therapist talk). I don't feel particularly connected to her yet, but I don't dislike her (which is definitely a good sign). She listens well & has made some interesting points thus far (based on the limited info we've discussed). I'm just trying to keep an open mind about it... even though I'm still not fully convinced anything good will come out of it (this is mostly because rehashing painful things is not pleasant & talking about them over and over tends to to make me feel worse instead of better).
- I am so tired of co-workers showing up to work when they are sick & highly contagious. Two people who had stomach viruses came to work last week because it was the last week before finals and they just couldn't stay home because it wouldn't be fair to the students (whatever!!). Well, they each spent the day running to the bathroom and my office mate and I spent the day disinfecting every doorknob and chair with Lysol and anti-bacterial wipes. We don't want your damn viruses, assholes!
- My car is sucking me dry. Last week, it was new front & rear brakes ($400). This week, it's a new engine mount ($390). There's also a short list of other things that need to be fixed, which will cost approximately $1500. The good news is that none of these things need to be fixed immediately and won't cause a breakdown (or any major damage) if I don't get them done right away. The bad news is that they do need to be done. I bought my car new in 2000 - it's now reached the point in which everything needs to be serviced. I knew this would happen eventually; I just didn't think all the parts would wear out at the same time!
- Classes end tomorrow and the new term starts next week. Between meetings and other assorted crap that has to be done between now and then, I basically have a three-day weekend between terms. Not cool.
- A student just emailed me to ask if she could possibly turn in the papers that were due in January and February (she didn't turn in anything all term) because she can't afford to get an F in the class. Sigh.
12 comments:
There are so many uncontrollable things in this world. I think your therapist has a good idea. An action plan are things you can do. Things you can control. And so long as you're moving in a forward direction, don't be too hard on yourself if it takes some time to get there.
Sending hugs your way!
wishing i could buy us a round of drinks on a patio somewhere... sounds like an escape and vent session is in order! Hope things look up for you soon, doll.
An action plan can help you deal with the thoughts and feelings that come around when you don't want them to. I used them and it does help.
Sending you hugs.
Still thinking of you and sending good thoughts your way.
One word. Or maybe two.
KICKBOXING!!! :)
Sending you happy thoughts. :)
Kickboxing? :-)
Thinking of you. Sending you good thoughts, too. Hoping things resolve in a way that brings you joy and/or peace.
hang in there. really. i know it's cliche' and all, but it really is the darkest before the dawn. things may seem impossible and neverending right now, but this, too, shall pass. it may take time and heartache and more pain, but you will rise up from the ashes.
therapy AND kickboxing, combined, are excellent ideas. put a little restorative yoga in there, too, to relax your mind and body.
(((((((cbn))))))))
so many hugs for you. so sorry about the unbloggable....
I'm glad you are trying the therapist thing. Hang in there. Fingers crossed that everything will work out for the best!
Another vote for kickboxing! Amazing how little you can dwell on crap you cannot control when you are too tired to stand up. Therapy helps too though the right therapist is really important. I hate people who condescend and want to talk about the past when all I want to do is figure out how to survive the future. Sending hugs and good karma your way. These are the days when you find out exactly what you CAN handle, and you will handle it.
Whew, sounds like a lot of rough stuff. Hang in there.
I have been seeing a therapist since August, and I had mixed feelings similar to yours... having gone in the past to the wrong people for the wrong reasons... not being particularly optimistic that raking up the past could do any good.
The one I've been going to, though, has been really insightful. Sure the vocabulary is stupid, and some of the ideas are stupid too. On the other hand, some really work. I like to think of any mulling over the past that I do in therapy as being future-oriented: learning from mistakes, trying to figure out why I ended up the way I am.
Anyways, good luck. Also, I'm a huge fan of Lexapro; tried it?
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