Okay, so the entire situation drastically changed once again (we're still on the f-ing roller coaster!). Yes, M & I decided to move into our own places and yes, I signed a lease and put down a deposit on a new place. I was all set and ready to move into the new apartment (although I definitely was not happy about it)... then came another serious discussion, which led to a change of heart and a new plan. Basically, the move is still happening, but with a much happier ending. Yes, we are moving into a new place *together*!
This is a huge relief for me, as I never thought it was a good idea for us to try to live separately after living together for five years. I know some of my friends don't completely agree with us continuing to live together after all of the craziness of the last two months (or don't understand what happened), but I have to go with my gut and do what feels right. We love each other and want our relationship to work... and that's enough for me right now. We still have some work to do on us, but I feel more optimistic about the future now that this has been settled.
We're moving into the same building I was planning to move into, but into a larger apartment than what I had originally chosen. It's smaller than where we currently live, but it's $500 cheaper per month! We looked at a few other apartments of comparable size/ rent to our current one, but decided it was worth sacrificing the space in order to save so much money.
I am feeling much better about life right now... however, sorting, packing, and moving still sucks.
14 comments:
Follow your heart... everything else will fall into place. I'm happy for you!
Glad you are happy- that is what counts. New place, new start? Why not!
I'm kind of a believer in fate...whatever is meant to be will be. Good luck with the move - I hope everything works out.
Good for you! I agree with the 'new place, new start' plan. I'm guessing it's just hard for your friends to see you so hurt and so down and they worry you'll get hurt again. You've got to trust yourself on this one. I hope it's better than ever for you both. :)
Hang in there and follow your intuition. You've been together longer than many marriages and only you two know the contours of your relationship.
I'm very glad things are looking up.
I'm so glad things are getting better. Perhaps a new space will make way for a new life together. I wish I lived close enough to help you move--I hope it goes well.
Trust your gut. I am glad that things are getting better and I hope that they continue to do so.
We still have to have a new home tapas party though! :P
Yay! You sound so upbeat and ready for a fresh start in a new (cheaper!) place. I'm very happy for you.
I think that's great! Sorry you have to move anyway, but at least the situation has improved.
Glad you are happier with this situation!
I'm glad to read you're feeling happy and hopeful--good luck moving and getting resettled.
New place; new possibilities. And $500 per month less! Glad that you're still working on your relationship.
I'd say "happy packing and moving," but I've done it often enough to know that it's a pain in the posterior.
Hope you continue to be both happy and hopeful.
i have to second pretty much everyone else's comments. go with you gut. follow your heart. do what feels right. our bodies alert us to danger--even emotional danger--so if it didn't feel right, then you'd know. but i'm glad you have both agreed to do what is best--work on yourselves and the relationship and doing it together.
you sound sooooooo much better! good luck with the move! i need to start thinking about such things myself!
<3,
maude
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